• purple-33 posted an update in the group Group logo of Girl TalkGirl Talk 3 years, 2 months ago

    This will sound weird but has anyone had there . yet??? im 11 and haven’t! my mom hasn’t even bought me an ACTUAL bra yet. I HAVE TO STILL WEAR TRAINING BRAS. THERE ANNOYING!!!!my mom thinks im to little for A LOT of things!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!

    • I’m close to 11 (Fine, I’m 2 months till there. But I FEEL 11. I don’t know how to describe it.), and I still have a training bra. Though I have used one that’s like in the middle, (But I hated it for other reasons) I think it really depends on what stage you are in Puberty, not really your age. Like my friend claims she met someone in 6th grade who hasn’t even started Puberty yet. So I say if you think you need a bra that is for a more later time in Puberty then when you would get a Training Bra, tell your mom about it. Maybe you could prepare reasons why, like maybe it’s uncomfortable or it’s not really doing it’s job in some way. But when you do, try to stay to a more reasonable side. Like here is a difference example:
      “Mom, I think that my bra is feeling uncomfortable, and I suspect it might be cause it’s a Training Bra. Would you let me get a new one?”
      “Mom! My Bra is SO worse than the ones that aren’t Training ones! Why do you make me wear it!? It feels HORRIBLE! Let me get a new one, that ISN’T like the ones I have now.”
      She might feel like you just want a new bra for no reason, so if you haven’t already, try giving reasons as I said earlier. Try not to say things that might make your WHOLE question sound like some random thing you want her to do.
      That’s just the first step to getting a bra other than a Training Bra.

      • Thanks. But I’ve asked her 2 times after I’ve been wearing training bras that i need new ones and she just ignores me!!! Most likely this summer, we will go shopping. i BARLEY fit in my training bras right now. they are very ANNOYING!!! I have been i puberty since last year. i didnt just start. My mom knows that. so Yeah!!! Any more advise??? i am in for it!!!
        Thx!!! @francaellerman

        • 2 Times? Oh. Well so far, I think you’re ahead of where I am in Puberty, so I never ran into the whole problem. So in conclusion, I don’t have any more advice. If you can earn money somehow or have an allowance, make a deal with your mom if she’d let you buy one or more with your own money. That might get your mom to be more like “Wow, if she is willing to spen her own money, she must really want/need one.”, but still not saying she’ll buy it for you. But she could also have a negative reaction, more like “WHAT?! You can’t just go buying stuff if I don’t feel like you need it! No way, I am NOT going to let you buy your own bra!”

      • good advice

    • She probably thinks your too little for a lot of things because you probably are. You’re eleven! You shouldn’t be worried unless your 14 and still showing no signs of puberty. There is nothing unhealthy about having a small chest or about not having your “monthly” yet. Unless you’re really old (15+) It’s probably just on it’s way. If you’re really concerned ask your doctor. They can do an evaluation of you and give you a good estimate of when you’ll probably start menstruating. My doctor was even able to tell how much more my chest would grow based off of it’s size at the time.

      I hope this helped! 🙂 <3

      • She doesnt mind me wearing bras. but she is happy that im not having my “mounthly” yet. and so am i!!!!! but i can be worried still.

      • Girls pick on me cause i don’t wear REAL bras!!!

        • If other girls pick on you that’s their problem. If it’s really bothering you though try asking her for an underwire bra just to try on or, (if she’s really not listening to you) while you are shopping together, go and try on some bras by yourself. Find one that fits (and that’s comfortable) show it to her and tell her why you like it so much. It might change her mind about you needing one.

          • THX!!! I DID THAT BEFORE. WE WENT TO KHOLES FOR MY BROTHER. AND I WENT IN THE GIRLS SECTION AND TRIED ON SOME BRAS. THEY WERE REALLY COMFORTABLE. I DIDNT ASK HER IF SHE WOULD BUY IT CAUSE I WASNT WEARING A BRA YET AND I WAS 10. BUT THX SO MUCH @Caraboo11

        • I agree with @Caraboo11 . You shouldn’t let other people tell you what you should think or do for no good reason just by the power of words. And if they pick on you, there not your friends, and not even in the middle people. If they’re just plain mean for no reason, I think you should ignore them, and don’t let them conflict your choices by making pressure. (Hope I don’t sound too serious there! 🙂 )

    • I’m 12 and about to be 13 in 4 1/2 months and still haven’t had my . Yet

    • Lol I’m 10 and my mum thinks I’m gonna have mine and she makes me wear actual bras I know training bras are annoying she made me wear one that had really itchy sparkles on it :/

    • Honestly Its okay to be a late grower I’m 12 (almost 13) and I still wear training bras. But if you think your ready just be honest with your mom. She will most likely be willing to talk to you.