If a boy is mean to a girl, it does not mean that he likes her. It means that he was never taught that a person should be nice and respect everyone. Being mean is an UNACCEPTABLE behavior, and I would consider him a bully!!
If a boy likes you, he should be kind and thoughtful and go out of his way to do nice things for you. And if he can’t then he is not worth your time, you deserve better. Love is not mean. Love is respect, kind, gentle, warm, comfortable.
Speak up and set boundaries using a calm but clear voice, and polite firm words – not whiny and not aggressive. For example, “STOP! Please get out of my way. I just want to leave. Get out of my way. I just want to go!”
I use Positive Self Talk and say something positive out loud to myself. For example, if someone says, “I don’t like you,” you can throw those words away in an imagined trash can and say, “I like myself.” If someone says, “You are stupid,” you can throw those words away and say, “I’m smart.” If someone says, “I don’t want to play with you,” then you can throw those words away and say, “I will find another friend.”
If he is causing you so much emotional pain that it is manifesting as physically; like a headache, a belly ache or upset stomach, talk to your teacher immediately and tell them how you are feeling. (I agree with @hazel5 and @moxxo) Ask to see the guidance counselor who can give you more ways to fend off bullies and talk to your parents. They are always there for you.
Sorry, this is long but I’ve been bullied a lot, and it’s just not right!!!!!! @chlochlokitten
